There are Biblical reasons why marriage is an excellent choice and terrible reasons why you shouldn't consider it if you plan to live in the United States. I will share my humble opinion.
Marriage versus living together are NOT the same. Marriage can not be simulated. Marriage is recognized and ordained by God Himself. He watches over it, blesses it, and the marriage covenant is considered a form of government as far as He is concerned. God's recognition of your marriage as a government, can yield "government' like blessings, recognition and generational blessings and stability.
Living together is none of these things and if you're having sex outside of marriage, He considers that fornication, which prevents Him from blessing you and your partner. This is not His best for you.
Any man and woman who are considering marriage, must first put away any notion of what modern society teaches, portrays in TV, films, magazines, and the education system concerning what marriage is and isn't. Why? Because society, filmmakers, article writers, and network TY producers did not create marriage. Thus their notions and advice are irrelevant.
Any couple should thoroughly examine and understand the origin of marriage in the context of Biblical principles. Why? Because God created it for a specific purpose.
If you do not know that purpose, you will likely be unaware and probably marry for the wrong reasons. As a result, you both live frustrated lives and eventually divorce.
Secondly, if your intentions were to begin with the end in mind, you won't get married only to divorce.
Most people who desire marriage do not educate themselves before getting engaged. Reading relevant books, listening to audiobooks and watching relevant videos would be vitally helpful to you and your relationship. The following are the benefits.
Exclusivity, companionship, emotional safety, and care - God created marriage for companionship, Genesis 2:18 (NIV) 18 The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
The word "suitable": in this context is the Hebrew word "need." which means: in front of, in sight of, or opposite to. In this context, opposite means two complementary or mutually exclusive (limited to only one person or group of people). The word mutual means: In a mutual manner, reciprocally, in a manner of giving and receiving (Cambridge Dictionary).
So you can see, from the beginning, marriage was designed for companionship and care to be mutually shared by a specific and exclusive person. This provides for emotional safety, comfort, security, and care.
The husband receives the blessing of God on his life and household - Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
God desires to bless you and your family. If you follow His direction and instructions, you open the ability for God to bless you, your family, and everything you do and have. You can see exactly what this means in Deuteronomy 28:1-14.
You are in covenant with God and your spouse, God becomes a witness in your marriage, He blesses you with children (a bloodline), to be raised in Godly principles - Malachi 2:13-16 (NIV) 13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord's altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
16 "The man who hates and divorces his wife," says the Lord, the God of Israel, "does violence to the one he should protect," says the Lord Almighty.
So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
We see the term covenant in Genesis 9:13 when God promises with a covenant, a solemn oath never to destroy the Earth with water again. According to the King James Bible, the oath requires one to "do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth." Adhering to covenant principals protects your bloodline, stabilizes the family, and establishes standards for your generations to follow.
If you are a person of integrity and faith and have chosen a partner that shares your same values, your life and marriage will be blessed. It will last its intended term, which in the Biblical context is for life. A life like this is hard to beat.
The following comment is for men. According to published statistics, women are now cheating more than men. For example, 34% of husbands are raising children that are not biologically their own, and women initiate 84% of all divorces in the United States. This number jumps to 94% if college educated.
Women are favored by the courts so men lose terribly in most divorces. The man's accumulated wealth is redistributed by biased judges. Wives often win even if they cheated in their marriages. The child support system provides great wealth for the states so it is to their benefit to put men in the system.
Additionally, women are also favored by the courts when it comes to child custody. Men are having to fight in the courts to see their own children.
As of this writing, if you happen to live in the United States, and due to the indoctrination of feminism in nearly every area of society, finding a wife with traditional Biblical values will likely be challenging. Therefore, I suggest going overseas, where you are most likely to find partners with traditional family values that you can marry for life. Marry her in her own country and live there. I would not consider bringing her to the United States only to be negatively influenced.
What are your thoughts about this? Please leave your comments below.
-John
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